Talk about sex again

I think I have to talk about my own opinion here, because there are lots of why after my ex-blog, such as why I am so OPEN, why I encourage to get laid before marriage.

There is lots of confusion in our youth, especially about sex. Yes, I did agree to make love before marriage, if both of you are happy to do it. But I DON'T encourage that. In fact, on the contrary, I think it is better not until your relationship is very clear and you are very soon to marry each other. Because most of guys in our glory China are seeking virgin girls, they are desperate to break the membrane and get the blood for the first fucking moment. If the girl got laid and broke up with her boy friend later, it's a very high possibility that the next boy friend will feel 'eat a fly' after discovering his girl friend is not a virgin.

Here's why I feel angry about the lesson hold in Zhejiang University. There isn't the concept called virgin for man, because there is no way to testify the virginity of male. So most of the guys are more 'open' in sex opinion than girls. Most of then (if not all) have watched pornographic film and have masturbation after that. They can satisfy their lust whenever they want, then wash off the sperm and come out freshly called himself a virgin. Oh, come on, there is no virgin man technically; they all lost their virginity in junior school by their hands.

But what about girls? They almost couldn't get satisfaction before marriage. And most of them feel regret even feel their heart is tortured after touching themselves, because they feel they are guilty to do this and are worried to be blamed, worried about the membrane. It's too unfair to women on the virginity. OK, now they hold a lesson to talk about keeping virginity. Why they just declare that only man have the right to be satisfied before marriage.

Here is why I feel disappoint. It's not too OPEN in our country; it's too conservative in our sex education. For the youth, the less they know, more risks they take. Here is an example. Once upon a time, I went to Carrefour with a buddy. Suddenly, he pointed at the condom sailing area and said he want to bring one home and 'study carefully what exactly it looks like'. I was surprised by the eager glimpse. The most surprising part is that when we talk about sex I felt he knew very little about it, he even know very little medicinal knowledge about himself. When he told me he got disease by taking risk sex action, he told me very proudly. I know what he thought, firstly he fucked with a woman, and secondly he fucked without condom. What a real man! But when I talk with him I felt he was extremely conservative about sex. He kept talking about seeking virgin for the marriage and refused to talk about 'disgusting things'.

So what we need is not virgin lesson, we need health lesson. It's not property to talk about open or conservative in class, as an adult, they can choose whatever they want. But it's very necessary to talk about right and wrong in class now.

P.S:很高兴看到ncll又在网络上出现了，真的很开心，盼望暑假和ncll见面，因为很久没有好好的面对面的聊天了，有很多想法没有和他 说。推荐给ncll一篇文章，在这 里。

P.S.II:我感觉到了地震， 不过之后就倒头接着睡了，今年真是多事之秋！地震之后的半个小时内温家宝总理赶赴灾区，调动 军队救援，并且通过官方媒体及时的跟踪报道消息。和上次雪灾一样，政府的抗灾能力很值得我这个老百姓赞扬；与缅甸政府相比，我们真是值得庆幸自己生活在新 中国。不过以我一贯唱反调的作风我还是有三个疑问：1，现 在有很多关于地震前的谣言，传播谣言是要获罪的，我不想谈这些谣言，不过我联想到的是很久以 前（好像小学初中）看的讲地震的书，一个地质专家说在唐山地震前开会就谈到过唐山要有地震，可惜没有采取 进一步措施。世界上唯一一次确切记载的成功预报地震是在中国，当时是根据观察动物等综合信息 分析出来的，其实有很大的偶然因素。目前预测地震确实很有难度，这在Discovery的片子里讲过，几乎不可能，不过我想在全国进行地震前，中，后的自救，自保，互救教育应该是可行的，我们的中小学是不是应该开一些关于救生方面的课程；唐山 大地震很多下肢瘫痪的人是因为救助不得当在被救助的过程中瘫痪的，但到现在很多人并不清楚应 该怎样正确救助被重物压伤脊柱的病人，这一点我很担心；2，为 什么校舍倒塌大半，学生伤亡严重？是学生都在上课跑的慢？还是建筑本身有问题？这需要灾后进行反思；3，在雪灾中，有很多人想要伸出自己的援手但是不知道怎么做；这 次地震也一样。我们迫切的需要发展NGO组织，或者让香港大量的NGO到内地来发展，虽然政府救灾很得力，但是NGO可以最大限度的利用民间的力量。